It has been a long, cold winter here in the UK, but now that
the weather is beginning to warm up it is time to think about how you can start
bringing the sunshine back into your life. If the grey skies and freezing
temperatures have left you feeling a little blue, what can you do to make
yourself feel happier, more vibrant and more energetic?
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| Is the sun rising or setting in your life at the moment? |
One of the most important things is to realise that you do
have control over how you feel. It is surprising
how many of us believe that we are at the mercy of our emotions and that if we
are feeling miserable and unhappy then there is nothing that can be done about
it. One of the first things that you can
do is to start monitoring how you are thinking and talking to yourself. Is most of what you say to yourself negative,
or are you more of a positive, glass half-full type of person? Always try and use positive language and if you
catch yourself thinking a negative thought press the delete key in your mind
and immediately replace it with a happier, more constructive one.
What do we mean by positive language? Let’s start by looking at a statement
containing a negative. A good example would be someone who is trying to lose
weight saying an affirmation like ‘I don’t want to eat chocolate anymore.’ A much more useful affirmation would be ‘I
only choose to eat healthy food that I know is good for me’ as with the first
statement you are basically telling yourself to eat chocolate, as your mind
will just ignore the ‘don’t’. Do you say
horrible things to yourself if you think you have made a mistake or haven’t
done something that you intended to do?
If so, next time that you call yourself a ‘stupid idiot’ or something a
lot stronger, stop and think for a second.
Would you say that kind of thing to a loved one, friend or work
colleague?
So why are you being so critical of yourself? Every time you say something negative about
yourself, you are compounding it in your unconscious mind. If you hold onto negative beliefs about
yourself in your unconscious mind, you will find that you attract people and
situations into your life that just reflect those beliefs back to you. So
rewire your unconscious mind with positive beliefs about yourself, by being as kind,
gentle and caring to yourself as you would be to anyone else in your life that
you love. Then you will find that the people in your life will start offering
you more consideration, love and attention and the events in your life will run
much more smoothly and offer you greater opportunities. You have to cherish yourself before you can
be truly loved or give love to someone else.
Do you complain a lot?
Do you expect situations in your life to go badly? Do you think that you are unlucky and that
you have been born under a cursed star? Every
time you complain about something or someone, you are just locking yourself further
into your misery and despair. Just look at how we Brits complain about the
weather. As soon as the sun comes out we
are ‘too hot’, if it rains our day is ruined and if it snows the world has come
to an end. How much happier would we all
be if we just accepted the weather we were experiencing on any given day? Much better would be to bless the weather and
give thanks for the awesome miracle that is the sun rising each morning and for
the start of another day where we can choose to be as happy and content as we
want to be.
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| Let springtime bring the sunshine back! |
Do you choose activities, friends and surroundings that
bring a smile to your face and help you feel great? Should is a very pervasive and potentially
damaging word and if you habitually feel that you don’t want to crawl out of
bed in the morning to face another day, then maybe you need to examine all the ‘shoulds’
in your life. So where do you feel
obligated? Are there friends that you
see through habit and because you feel obligated? Do you have friends who always seem to pull
you down, draining your energy and always leaving you feeling flat? Would you
be happier if you broke away from them and spent time with people or doing
activities that make you happier and more energised? Are you doing a job that you hate or find
boring because you feel you ‘should’?
Maybe it’s because you are trying to live up to family expectation, or
you feel that you have to do a certain type of work to earn enough money or
that you have invested too much time and effort just to walk away now. While these are all considerations, are they
worth being miserable and unfulfilled for the rest of your life? If you are doing anything that doesn’t bring
you joy, have a look at how you could do it differently or choose something
that does make your heart sing. If you
are dragging yourself to the gym every day because you feel you ‘should’
exercise, why not look at all the other different types of exercise you could
do that would put the bounce back in your step like yoga, football, cycling,
ice skating or even mountain climbing?
If you want to be happy you can start today. You just have to start making different
choices and making your own feelings of joy, peace and contentment a
priority. This may seem like selfishness
at first, but can you really make other people happy if you are miserable and
negative all the time? Like attracts like,
so allowing more light, fun, joy and laughter into your world is going to open
up inspiring new avenues for you and bring exciting new people into your life. Choosing
to be happy will help you know that you can reach the goals that you set, that
you can take the exercise and eat the healthy food your body has been craving
and that you can have peaceful, loving relationships. Because you know that happiness is a choice,
you will also lighten up when things do go wrong or wander off track a
bit. It is only the meaning we give to
events that makes us unhappy, not the events themselves. So if the train is late in the morning it is
entirely your choice as to whether you get all riled up and angry or whether you
just chill out and treat yourself to another coffee.
If you would like some help bringing the sunshine back into
your life and consciously start choosing to feel happy, I have some great
resources for you.
On Monday 22nd April at 7.30pm, I am running the ‘Manifest
with the Sun Workshop & Meditation – Taurus and the Second House’ at the The
Peace Hospice, Peace Drive, Watford, WD17 3PH.
Entrance fee £15.
The sun moves into a new sign of the zodiac around the 20th
of each month, allowing us to tap into the energies of that sign to make
powerful, positive changes in our lives. This month the sun is moving into the
fixed earth sign of Taurus. Taurus
represents the material foundation of our world, so when the sun is transiting
that sign it is a good time to reflect on what we have built, what we have,
what we value and how solid we think our foundations are. How have we nurtured our talents and do we
have the ability to feed, clothe and sustain ourselves? It is about our earnings and how we use them.
Taurus is also a sensual, physical sign, so are you taking
enough care of your body? Do you choose
to eat a healthy diet and take enough exercise?
Are you open to giving and receiving physical affection? Do you give yourself enough time to relax and
enjoy life?
In this workshop we will be doing a series of practical exercises and
meditations designed to help us find out what it is that we truly want to
manifest in these areas and release any blockages to our success. By shining the warming, healing light of the
sun into these areas of our lives, we will be able to identify and clearly see
the steps that we need to start taking to achieve our goals and manifest our
desires.
If you prefer working on a one-to-one basis, I have put
together a special set of three hypnotherapy sessions called ‘The HappinessTrip’ which have been created especially to help you bring more sunshine and
joy into your life. During these special
hypnosis sessions I will be helping you to identify why you are feeling
unhappy, where these negative emotions are coming from and what areas of your
life need some adjustment or unhelpful beliefs changing. I will give you some
great practical tools to help you relax, cope with anxiety and improve your
confidence. The ‘Happiness Trip’ costs
£170 and is a great investment because you will find that being happy and
content will improve your health, your relationships and you will find that you
start making much better choices in your life as you will be deciding from a
place of joy not fear.
So if you want to book onto the ‘Manifest with the Sun
Workshop & Meditation – Taurus and the Second House’ of book ‘The Happiness
Trip’ set of three hypnotherapy sessions call me on 0777 051 5377 or email: cmarsh@cmhypnotherapy.co.uk
Choose to bring the sunshine back to your life today!
